Chapter 2 in this book is discussing about the reason to have our husbands be our #1 priority in life. This chapter also discusses the syndrome of the "do-it-all" moms out there and where it leads us too (I think there may be a lot of us out there that fall into this category).
Dr. Laura states that this lifestyle of the "do-it-all" moms has led to weight gain, low sex drive, moodiness, and fatigue-all due to stress caused by trying to do too much, not being able to keep up with it, not feeling very accomplished at any of it, resenting anyone who has any expectations and ending up feeling hostile and depressed.
(I believe a lot of people probably feel at least one, if not two of these things, sorry, but we just can't do it all and feel happy all the time).
Dr. Laura also states that many of us wives that do work and have children have what she calls the Hurried Woman Syndrome, the HWS do not treat everyone well, especially their children and husbands because they are tired all the time and stressed out by the requirements of a job and we tend to make everyone else pay the price because we just have nothing else to give. (Thinking to different scenarios after a stressful day at work I may have fallen into this pit a time or two, for those of you who know me, maybe more).
Okay ladies (and men) here is where Dr. Laura states that it is our duty as woman to give it up to the man.
Husband Caller: I am saying for a good, healthy relationship, there is nothing wrong with us making love at least 3 times a week. She thinks once or twice every two or three weeks is a healthy relationship. I said we should call Dr. Laura because she knows what is healthy and what isn't.
Dr. Laura: Is that a reasonable rendition of the issue?
Wife: Yes, that is pretty close.
Dr. Laura: Did you ever have sex more than you do now?
Wife: Well, it isn't that I don't like it. When husband and I were first married, it was a lot.
Dr. Laura: So, what has it gotten boring?
Wife: Maybe a little boring. But, more important, I am tired a lot.
Dr. Laura: That is not a fair excuse. It is your obligation to keep yourself healthy and fit so that you can be involved with your husband. You can't do the "I am tired" bit every day and have your husband just accept that this important, intimate part of his life is simply going to be controlled by your whim. It is your obligation to not be tired all the time. What if he said "I'm too tired and I'm not going to work anymore?"
Dr. Laura goes on to discuss what wife has done to spice up the love life and of course us being woman ask "why is it up to us", of course Dr. Laura doesn't accept that answer and says it is up to us ladies to do what we need to do to keep the love life alive and not be so damn tired. (my thoughts on this have always been, well if I wasn't picking up everything in the house and doing all the cleaning, cooking and laundry then maybe I wouldn't be so damn tired! That is an unacceptable answer according to Dr. Laura, sooo then I say if you came to bed when I did, maybe something would happen!)
Per Dr. Laura if you decide that the most important thing about your life is your worker-ant role, you'll likely feel drained a lot of the time and resent your obligation you have to your husband and children. You are not loved, adored, and intimately needed at work. You are a goddess to your children and a queen to your husband. So, aside from the paycheck what is more nourishing and rewarding? (Now these statements make sense to me, sometimes you must get right down to the nitty gritty to get through).
The other piece of this chapter goes on about woman who have children and that is their #1 priority and since having children they have devoted all of their time and energy to them and only them. I won't go into detail on this subject because I believe in having my own life as a person, mother, and a wife and each needs equal time, a good friend of mine taught me this after she had a child and when I was pregnant. One thing a caller did call in to state was "You had a husband before you had children-don't forget it! Good advice if you wanted my opinion.
That basically sums up chapter 2 in nutshell. Enjoy!
I like that Dr. Laura she sounds slutty.......i wonder if there are any naked pics of her on the internet..............YEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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