Is Being a Super Woman Really Possible?

I am looking over everything this month and starting to wonder how much one person can do?
Super Women Requirements:

• Look Good 
• Make-up, hair and clothes.  Strive for perfection.  This entails a lot in itself.  Facials, hair appointments, nails (whether you do it yourself or go to the salon).  Every outfit needs to look well put together and the appropriate accessories.  You shouldn't wear the same outfit over and over again, which then includes shopping time.  
• Work - Give 110% 
• Work over 40 hours a week to show that you can do it all.
• Kids
• Cook and nourish, spend quality time, teach, listen and learn from them.  Clean-up after them.  Take them to activities so they can strive to be their best and learn that there is life outside of the home.
• Wife
• Clean house, do laundry, spend time together. 

This list could really go on and on and on.

As the month of May was coming close I knew that I would be extremely busy.  I have been trying to do it all and give each one of these things 100%.  It isn't working out so great for me.  At work I have projects going and not enough time in the work day.  And then to throw into the mix sick kids and daycare closures I had no idea how tough it would really be to try and get everything done.  School and activities are coming to an end and there are multiple events to go to and take kids to.  I feel horrible when something is during the day and I have to tell my little girl that Mommy won't be able to make it because I have to work.  I get home from work and try to throw something relatively healthy on the table and I have to admit we have been ordering pizza and getting take out on numerous nights.  On the nights that we have a homemade meal then there is the clean-up afterwards which takes time out from the quality time I should be spending with the kids.  Then it's bath and bed and get items ready for the morning.  I then grab a load of laundry and put the load from the day before away.  I have to do Dan's bookwork during the week at some point and really should be doing it on a daily basis.   Pay the bills, clean the rest of the house and then maybe try to get on the computer and catch up on some of my work for 30 minutes.  The pampering for me is usually out the window, no facial scrub tonight!  At 10:30pm I am exhausted and crash, which means I have probably also neglected my husband for the night.  The alarm goes off at 6am and I get to do it all over again. After awhile it starts to feel a little bit like dejavu - didn't I just do this yesterday in exactly the same sequence?
Somewhere between all this chaos I think I have lost myself.  What happened to me and where did I go?  Sometimes I can't even recognize myself. And then when I do find myself again while hanging out with friends or having lunch with a co-worker then I want more of being just me.  How do I find the balance.
I wonder if all of this is what is causing the hole in my stomach a continuous ache that seems to be getting worse each day. I think the ulcer is back and I am doing my best to ignore it right now.  Too much to do and too little time and that equals stressful living.  Hopefully things will calm down or I can find some piece of mind or figure out how to balance in some fun and live a little.
 If anyone out there has answers on how you are a Super Woman and bring it all together please enlighten me on your secret.  From one exhausted Super Woman wannabe to the next.  Take Care of Yourself!